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San Francisco’s top places for crying in public

Go ahead—let it out

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“Don’t cry out loud,” urges songstress Melissa Manchester, adding, “keep it inside, learn how to hide your feelings.”

Pish posh! Should you find yourself on the verge of salty tears, don’t worry—there are many places in the city to sit and let out a good, healthy bawl.

And now that Christmas is just around the corner, what better time to sob in a public setting thinking about family, unachievable expectations, or Judy Garland singing this song.

Inspired by Curbed Philly, we selected some choice spots in the city to cry. While there are definitely many more spots to howl in San Francisco, we chose 14 of our favorites boo-hoo hubs.

Do you have a favorite place we didn’t include? Let us know. We won’t judge.

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Ocean Beach

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For those sunny days that won’t shake the blues, heading out to Ocean Beach during sun fall will provide a Cinemascope-esque backdrop for a good weep. The sloshing waves should help muffle your gentle sobs. A nice walk along the beach after weeping will help dry your tears. Bring a blanket and some tissue. It can get cold out there. So very cold.

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In front of “The Russian Bride’s Attire” at the Legion of Honor

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So pretty and touching it hurts, Konstantin Makovsky’s “The Russian Bride’s Attire” (1887) shows a young girl as she prepares for her wedding day. No one featured in the painting, save for the male figures, are happy. A harrowing and striking piece that’s also an ideal backdrop for bringing on any marital water works.

Kirkham Street in the Outer Sunset

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Too many pedestrians on Judah. They’ll see your tears. And 19th Avenue is practically a freeway. Instead, head over to Kirkham Street in the Outer Sunset for some solace. Walk west toward Ocean Beach. By the time you hit tte water, your tears will have dried up.

Pet Cemetery

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A solid place to remember your best friend, that furry pal whose only goal in life was to make you happy. Hundreds of pets are buried here, with headstones dating back to the 1950s.

Lovers’ Lane

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For masochists who really want to feel uncomfortable in their lovelorn pain, we recommend heading out to Lovers Lane in the Presidio. All of the happy couples walking by hand-in-hand will have you looking right into the abyss of loneliness. Bonus points if you do it all while listening to the “Everybody Hurts” radio station on Spotify.

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The bottom of the Lyon Street Steps

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“Sometimes there’s so much beauty in the world, I feel like I can’t take it, and my heart is just going to cave in,” moped the brooding emo teen from American Beauty. One could easily describe the Lyon Street Steps in such an overwrought manner for they too are, in a word, stunning. And at the very bottom of these steps, you can park it and have a good solid cry on one of the benches. If the unbridled beauty doesn’t get your eyes leaking, then the nearby multi-million-dollar homes, which you will never be able to afford, will.

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Alta Plaza Park

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Of all the parks in the city fertile for blubbering, no patch of grass is as chic or FOMO-inducing as Alta Plaza Park in tony Pacific Heights. For added tear-duct prodding, gaze at the multimillion-dollar homes surrounding you, gasp quietly, and ask yourself, “Why do they get to have it all? What about me?”

Alamo Drafthouse Cinema

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A bittersweet movie always does the trick. Check out the lineup at Alamo Drafthouse Cinema to see if there’s a movie screening that’s ideal for maximum tears. Another boo-hoo assist? The cocktails you can order during the movie, which will help ramp up any fear, self-loathing, or distress.

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The pews at Grace Cathedral

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This gorgeous church in the heart of Nob Hill is not only a glorious place to connect with one’s higher power, but also a choice spot to sit in silence for a stress-releasing cry. So haunting. So beautiful.

San Francisco SPCA Mission Adoption Center

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A good cry can be summoned by the look of an orphan dog or cat in need of a loving home. One look into your new pet’s eyes will get your ducts overflowing.

Neiman Marcus

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Preferably while wearing a floor-length mink coat, mascara running down your cheeks, looking into the mirror and wondering why all of this money hasn’t bought true happiness.

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Embarcadero Center walkways

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The walkways above the main corridor at the Embarcadero Center have plenty of tables and chairs, all of which can be used to let it all out. Rarely busy or populated on this level, the traffic noise bellow will help drown out your inconsolable heaving.

Crying at the back of a bus

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You can hop on a bus at the temporary Transbay Terminal or simply get on any bus (not during rush hour, good lord) at any stop, head to the back, look out the window like you’re in a ballad music video, and then let it out.

The end of Pier 14

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The long walk down Pier 14 will give you enough time to work up the emotions to bawl once you arrive at the end. Better for a good cry on the weekdays rather than weekends; fewer tourists to ruin the melancholia. What’s more, the sweeping views of the Bay Bridge and expansive bay below your feet will make you feel like a grain of sand lost in this big, complex beach we call life.

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Ocean Beach

For those sunny days that won’t shake the blues, heading out to Ocean Beach during sun fall will provide a Cinemascope-esque backdrop for a good weep. The sloshing waves should help muffle your gentle sobs. A nice walk along the beach after weeping will help dry your tears. Bring a blanket and some tissue. It can get cold out there. So very cold.

A post shared by One Leg Chris (@1legchris) on

In front of “The Russian Bride’s Attire” at the Legion of Honor

So pretty and touching it hurts, Konstantin Makovsky’s “The Russian Bride’s Attire” (1887) shows a young girl as she prepares for her wedding day. No one featured in the painting, save for the male figures, are happy. A harrowing and striking piece that’s also an ideal backdrop for bringing on any marital water works.

Kirkham Street in the Outer Sunset

Too many pedestrians on Judah. They’ll see your tears. And 19th Avenue is practically a freeway. Instead, head over to Kirkham Street in the Outer Sunset for some solace. Walk west toward Ocean Beach. By the time you hit tte water, your tears will have dried up.

Pet Cemetery

A solid place to remember your best friend, that furry pal whose only goal in life was to make you happy. Hundreds of pets are buried here, with headstones dating back to the 1950s.

Lovers’ Lane

For masochists who really want to feel uncomfortable in their lovelorn pain, we recommend heading out to Lovers Lane in the Presidio. All of the happy couples walking by hand-in-hand will have you looking right into the abyss of loneliness. Bonus points if you do it all while listening to the “Everybody Hurts” radio station on Spotify.

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The bottom of the Lyon Street Steps

“Sometimes there’s so much beauty in the world, I feel like I can’t take it, and my heart is just going to cave in,” moped the brooding emo teen from American Beauty. One could easily describe the Lyon Street Steps in such an overwrought manner for they too are, in a word, stunning. And at the very bottom of these steps, you can park it and have a good solid cry on one of the benches. If the unbridled beauty doesn’t get your eyes leaking, then the nearby multi-million-dollar homes, which you will never be able to afford, will.

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Alta Plaza Park

Of all the parks in the city fertile for blubbering, no patch of grass is as chic or FOMO-inducing as Alta Plaza Park in tony Pacific Heights. For added tear-duct prodding, gaze at the multimillion-dollar homes surrounding you, gasp quietly, and ask yourself, “Why do they get to have it all? What about me?”

Alamo Drafthouse Cinema

A bittersweet movie always does the trick. Check out the lineup at Alamo Drafthouse Cinema to see if there’s a movie screening that’s ideal for maximum tears. Another boo-hoo assist? The cocktails you can order during the movie, which will help ramp up any fear, self-loathing, or distress.

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The pews at Grace Cathedral

This gorgeous church in the heart of Nob Hill is not only a glorious place to connect with one’s higher power, but also a choice spot to sit in silence for a stress-releasing cry. So haunting. So beautiful.

San Francisco SPCA Mission Adoption Center

A good cry can be summoned by the look of an orphan dog or cat in need of a loving home. One look into your new pet’s eyes will get your ducts overflowing.

Neiman Marcus

Preferably while wearing a floor-length mink coat, mascara running down your cheeks, looking into the mirror and wondering why all of this money hasn’t bought true happiness.

A post shared by Herman Chan (@hermanity) on

Embarcadero Center walkways

The walkways above the main corridor at the Embarcadero Center have plenty of tables and chairs, all of which can be used to let it all out. Rarely busy or populated on this level, the traffic noise bellow will help drown out your inconsolable heaving.

Crying at the back of a bus

You can hop on a bus at the temporary Transbay Terminal or simply get on any bus (not during rush hour, good lord) at any stop, head to the back, look out the window like you’re in a ballad music video, and then let it out.

The end of Pier 14

The long walk down Pier 14 will give you enough time to work up the emotions to bawl once you arrive at the end. Better for a good cry on the weekdays rather than weekends; fewer tourists to ruin the melancholia. What’s more, the sweeping views of the Bay Bridge and expansive bay below your feet will make you feel like a grain of sand lost in this big, complex beach we call life.

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